Why is change something that causes us so much distress? Why does it cause me so much distress?
I’ve moved countless times. Switched schools. Switched social scenes. Switched countries. Switched cultures.
And yet, I still find change hard.
Why is this?
I think it is because we are each hardwired to want to stay in our comfort zones. That we don’t want to do anything that may mess up how good we already have it. Even when we know we have no choice but to change.
I find it strange that we can find ourselves in situations, like transition, where change is unavoidable. Yet, we still find it hard to make changes about ourselves.
I am home in Rhode Island after moving back to the US from South Africa. I am job hunting. I am searching for a place to call my own “home”.
Obviously there is plenty of change happening.
Yet, when I look at jobs I find myself looking at the same exact roles over and over again. Doing things that I already know don’t give me life. Yet I keep doing it.
Because I’m afraid. Because I’m afraid of the unknown.
I’m afraid of doing something different than what my resume says I “should” be doing. Of breaking the rules. Of wanting to do things my way. Of not having a stable job with benefits when I soon turn 26.
Fear is something very real and very scary and it blocks me from diving into new territory head first.
When I find the courage to break through that barrier into something new I find freedom and joy and excitement.
It turns out that fear is just that ugly brick wall we put up to keep ourselves safe and comfortable, yet right on the other side is the green pasture of opportunity and dreams.
So this is one of my resolutions for the year 2016. Break through the fear. Don’t be afraid of what other people say. Make mistakes. Shake stuff up and reorganize until I can feel with my gut and soul that I am on the right path and I plan to do just that.
So ask yourself...What fear can you address today that is holding you back?